Have you ever been around children and watched how they can move from one thing to another like a tornado? They want this, then they want that, and it’s a cycle of always something else. A certain innate restlessness. We can be just as unpredictable and turbulent, it’s just our tornados are bigger… just like us. This insatiable restlessness that we can feel from time to time is as old as the dirt we stand on.
The other night on my Maverick Mastery group coaching webinar, I posited the one question that when I ask in coaching or pose it from onstage when I’m speaking, most people have difficulty answering immediately.
“What do you want?” I ask, and frequently the answer I get is, “I want to be happy.” The conundrum with desiring a particular emotion is that emotions will always disappoint. Hanging on to a feeling is like trying to catch a cloud in your hands and keep it.
In my experience, looking for anything in the emotional realm is an invitation to experience serial disappointment. Emotions come and go like waves of the ocean. They also crescendo and ebb just as those same waves.
We’ve all had highs and lows. Looking to a feeling to be our life’s quality assurance monitor is an endless cycle of acquisition and attrition. It’s a guaranteed roller coaster ride. However, there is another way, a way to move more deeply into a place that is contented no matter what our external circumstances, internal emotional state and no matter what feeling may or may not be moving over the landscape of our experience. This higher ground has transcended the flood of human emotion and looks not to a feeling for its fix.
Where do we find such a place of sacred steady-eddie? Look no further, we’re it. That’s the most freeing and at-times scary awesome-awareness all wrapped into one big existential ball. We are already all that we seek. The emotions are just the playground of this exquisite experience of walking around in a meat suit as a human being. We are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around.
We must enjoy our emotions responsibly. We are at our most empowered place when we remain who we are despite how we feel. Emotional states don’t change who we are, (or who someone else is.) Many make the mistake of identifying with their feelings “I Am sad.” “I Am anxious.” “I Am depressed.” You are not any of these emotional states, the body might be experiencing sadness, anxiety, or depression but you are not these things.
Imagine the empowerment of releasing your “self” from the sea of churning and ever-changing emotions and instead finding your “self” perfectly fine right where you are. Empowered, free, emotionally and psychologically strengthened, supported and sustained. Drug-free bliss right where you’re at, here and now.
I want to leave you with this fantastic Native American creation myth that comes down to us from the Sioux Nation. The Sioux creation myth goes like this:
The Creator created the earth and humans and told Creation that he wanted to hide something from the humans. That is until they were ready to know about it. The “it” was the fact that they create their own reality. The eagle told the Creator to give him it and he would take it to the moon for humans to find it but the Creator refused and told him one day they would find it here. The salmon told the Creator to give it to him and he would take it to the ocean floor and bury it so that the humans could not find it. The Creator replied that they would find it there also. So the buffalo said I will bury it on the great plains. The Creator then replied that they would dig into the ground to find it there as well. Grandmother mole, who could not see physical things, but sees into the spiritual realm told the Creator to put “it” inside the humans. And so the Creator did that.
Are you ready to want “It?”