After the party, uncertainty strikes. Chaos, like a mysterious, enchanted, fog descends upon us at our corner of Old Year’s dusk and New Year’s dawn. Thoughts of a New Year can be met with a confetti of anxiety. Shredded dreams of our past rain down. Shimmering, glittery shards of self-realization reflect back choices we’ve made and highlight roads we’ll never travel. Just a sip of melancholy savoring the bittersweet of Life. Happy New Year.
When did life become so complicated? In our independence, our Free Will, our limitless possibilities, did we become overwhelmed with choice like a child in the cereal aisle of the supermarket?
Technological advances and information serve to delight, as well as, overload. We have single handedly constructed a self-imposed overwhelm like no other time in history. So many choices with how to spend our time, our resources, juxtaposed to a multitude of interruptions and distractions. Our lives can feel out of control at-times spinning inside the centrifuge of all possibility congealed with everything we know in our hearts that we’ll never have time to do in one lifetime.
If you’ve ever felt like you were running up a down escalator and barely maintaining the pace to keep from slipping and falling flat on your face, I feel your pain. I’ve been juggling an independent consulting practice, national speaking platform, executive coaching business, organic family farm, and full-time Mom-job for a decade and a half. Eight of those years were spent as a single mother of a child with a severe neurodevelopmental disorder, and doing “it” alone was, well.. it was terrifying. Honestly, I’m still mentally tossed into a gigantic vat of molten tar every time I slip into time travel… and allow thoughts of an uncertain future creep into my consciousness. “What if” is a trail of self-inflicted torture that I have over many years of meditation and prayer, disciplined myself to remain in the present out of necessity. For sanity’s sake it’s a daily practice.
I understand extreme challenges, deep struggle, and eating icing straight out of the plastic tub. I also have put all the impossible pieces of a shattered life back together, rearranged into a new vessel, better, bolder, stronger, complete, and more resilient than before.
“If your dreams don’t scare you, you’re not reaching high enough.”
Life can be overwhelming, and frankly, sometimes it’s downright scary to contemplate all that we may have dreamt onto our 2016 plates. On top of our pile of “stuff” we’ve left undone in 2015 weighing upon our conscious (and subconscious), this is the time of year that causes us pause as we contemplate how we will harness the power of the new year to make “this one” count.
Forgiveness of ourselves is crucial to our successfully forgiving others. Seeing ourselves for all we are and all we are not allows us the same liberties with others; translating into less drama and a helluva lot less chaos and conflict. Being gentle with our judgements, instilling kindness and a conscious effort to understand before seeking to be understood leads to a life of wisdom, peace, and contentment.
“Be kind…for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” ~ Plato
Cultivating compassion and giving ourselves and others a break is the path of peace and wellbeing. Did you sow compassionate seeds in yourself and others last year? What was your experience of 2015?
An incredible exercise I encourage you to partake is to observe some quiet time and explore what you breathed into yourself in 2015 and what you exhaled upon the world in the form of your creations last year. What was the theme of your 2015? Did you take anything into yourself that no longer serves your highest? Let it go. Did you inhale good lessons, great help and an increased measure of wisdom? Practice it this year, strengthen what you learned, there’s no need to repeat your lessons. What did you breathe out upon others last year? Did you sow peace? Did you sow Love? We cannot reap that which we haven’t sown.
Want Love? Be Loving. Want Romance? Be Romantic. Want Peace? Be Peaceful. Want Joy? Be Joyful. Want Friends? Be a Friend. Want Trust? Be Trustworthy. Anything you want, “be” that and watch the miracles unfold in your experience.
If uncertainty, guilt, regret, anxiety, fear, anger, resentment, and all manner of negative emotions are sprouting up along your path, you’re watering and growing a chaotic expression. Whatever is showing up in your life experience today is the sum total of seeds planted from your past. As we look at a fresh field this year, it’s a gorgeous opportunity for creating the best version of ourselves we can be. Now is the perfect time to decide what we wish to plant, water, and make manifest in 2016.
Today is a chance to create a great yesterday for tomorrow. In every moment we can choose to meet fear, insecurity, uncertainty, anger, regret, guilt, and sadness with gentleness, compassion, and forgiveness. Pull gently at your roots, tend to yourself lovingly and place your energy and intention upon only that which you wish to increase. And when you find yourself treading the waters of chaos, hang-on knowing that this too shall pass. Regain your strength and resolve to climb out, dry off, and move confidently in the direction of your dreams. We are spiritual beings having a human experience, and not the other way around.
Redemption from the tyranny of chaos is found when we remember who we really are, embrace our feelings of instability, stand firm in our uncertainty, while honoring the inevitable messiness of a life well-lived. There is an undeniable vulnerability in just getting up out of bed every morning. Look how far you’ve come as you reflect over your years. You are capable, lovable, brilliant, beautiful, uniquely and wonderfully created, and you’ve so much to share with the world. You are a gift, and the world needs what only you can make manifest through your talent. So when life disappoints, take heart: We are in this together.